In 1990, I was the Vice President of Sales for a rather glamorous $25M clothing company. I lived the ‘right life’: I wore the right clothes, ate at the right restaurants, worked out at the right club, owned an apartment in the right neighborhood and made more money than I knew how to spend.
One day I asked myself, “Just how much money will it take for me to forget how much I hate my life?” If I was doing everything ‘right,’ why did everything feel so wrong?
The problem? This wasn’t my life I was living; it was the life I was taught I should want.
One night I found myself on the upper level of the George Washington Bridge—I was either going to end my life or change it. The choice was mine.
In hindsight, the bridge was a both a literal and figurative metaphor—I wanted to toss out my old, disingenuous life and discover my new and authentic one.
At some point everyone has a bridge to cross, a mind to change, a transformation to pursue. My job is to help you do that; to help you go from ‘here to there’ and from ‘now to next’, even if you don’t know where ‘there’ or ‘next’ is.
I’ve often asked myself why high-functioning professional men and women become paralyzed by indecision. Why they're procrastinating? Why do you procrastinate?
First let me say that procrastination (like many other coping mechanisms) has earned a really bad rap. The three primary, legitimate, and often unexplored reasons we procrastinate are:
perfectionism
fear of failure
fear of success
You may ask yourself, “Why am I procrastin...
Guns have always scared the crap out of me. Until recently, that is!
Yeah, yeah, yeah “It’s not the guns, it’s the people….” Well, guess what?! It’s both!
My desire to learn how to shoot was born out of the creepy thought that if I ever needed to handle a gun to keep my family safe, I wouldn’t know how.
That’s not my style. Time to learn. (Apparently I’ve been watching waayyyy to much NCIS and Criminal Minds. Thanks, ...
Just because you’re strong doesn’t mean there won’t be times when you feel like a wimp.
Just because you’re empowered doesn’t mean that there won’t be times when you feel powerless.
Just because you’ve found your voice doesn’t mean that there won’t be times when you won’t be able to find the words you need.
Just because you’re a truth seeker doesn’t mean that there won’t be times when you lie to yourself.
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If you haven't heard, today is American Business Women's Day!
Congratulations on either being a woman in business, or knowing one!
In the spirit of this day, I want to share the top 10 things I've learned both as a a VP of Sales in a multimillion dollar corporation, and as a business owner for the past 20 years.
The most important question you can ever ask yourself is, "What do I want?"
Owning a business is exactly like being a parent...
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This is Zazu. He’s one of three new-born green-cheeked conures (small parrots) that we recently adopted.
Zazu is only 5 weeks old and has already taught me a ton about how to realize potential. (I’ve never hand fed an animal before and am amazed at how much I learn in the 10 minutes it takes me.)
Every day I watch these 2 oz. creatures evolve. Every day they do something they c...