A True Story Of The Smart Woman Who Ruined Her Stupid Career (and Lived Happily Ever After)

Mar17
This timeless, intimate story delivers a profound lesson... Once upon a time, I was a very successful senior sales executive in the fashion industry. I traveled the world, made a boatload of money and was. ahem, very important.  I dined at appropriately chic restaurants, worked out at ‘The best' club in the city, dressed perpetually as though I was going on a photo shoot, and bossed people around a lot. I was not a very nice per...
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THANK YOU on International Women’s Day

Mar08
The "Fearless Girl" statue faces Wall Street's "Charging Bull" statue. (Mark Lennihan / Associated Press) Over the course of many incarnations in the personal growth field, I have had the incomparable honor to stand before thousands of women from all over the world. In a multitude of roles, I have spoken on behalf of myself, in defense of others, and on the part of women who, however incorrectly, perceived that I have a voice greater than their ...
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RULE #1 KEEP YOUR KNEES TOGETHER: What Women Who Lead Can Learn About Executive Presence from Kellyanne Conway

Mar03
It was the picture that went round the world in a blink of the shutter…. Kellyanne Conway, senior advisor to The President, kneeling on a couch in the Oval Office. Around her stood dozens of Presidents of the HBCAU (Historically Black Colleges and Universities) who were gathered round The President in what appeared to be a photo opp. From what I can see from the photo, Kellyanne is the lone white woman in the room. (Yes, it is indeed ...
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12 THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR

Feb15
HAVING AN OPINION: It's yours. You earned it. You deserve it. Your opinion is not up for a vote. It is based on your beautiful, flawed and perfectly unique history. Your opinion is not an negotiable fact. Nor is it an alternative fact. It is subjective and it matters not if anyone agrees with you. BEING SELF-FULL: You are lovable and worthy. That warrants no discussion. Taking care of your needs, your wants and your desires is not selfish;...
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THIS IS WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU STEP OVER YOUR INTEGRITY

Feb06
Ellen promised she’d send her signed contract back to me the day she received it. Six days later, after a number of ‘delays’, it showed up in the mail. First, she forgot. Then her printer didn’t work, then she left It home. Finally, she failed to check the box for Saturday delivery so I didn’t receive her packet until Monday night. What should have been a 24 hour turnaround, resulted in a delay of six days. No big deal. Priscilla ...
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THE BEST WAY TO HANDLE ALTERNATE FACTS ON THE JOB

Feb02
“I can’t believe it! He lied to me!” This from Wendy, a long-term (and much respected) coaching client, heatedly calling me in the middle of the day. “Who lied to you?” “Angus. For six-months he’s looked me straight in the eye during our one-on-ones, and in my review, and he blatantly lied to me. I could be sick right now!” Here’s the backstory... Over the course of several months Wendy and I had rigorously positi...
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The 6 Things My Most Successful Coaching Clients Do

Jan18
Coaching can be a messy business, if done right. Most people don’t hire a coach because they lack talent or potential. Most people hire a coach because there’s a gap between who they are, at their core, and how they’re performing in their lives. This Potential to Performance Gap ™ often creates cognitive dissonance; a clinical term that means, in essence, that two conflicting beliefs are attempting to harmoniously live in the same...
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AN OPEN LETTER TO HIGH POTENTIAL, UNDERACHIEVING WOMEN

Jan05
Dear High Potential, Underachieving Friend, I’ve been wanting to have this conversation with you for quite some time but, I confess, I’ve been a wimp. I know, I know…. You see me as a powerful woman who never holds back, so I betrayed both of us, didn’t I? Please know that this letter is tinged with the embarrassment that comes with not having had the courage to confront you sooner. But wimp no more! What I’ve been wanti...
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4 Hard Leadership Lessons Learned From a Fallen Weiner

Sep08
Photo Credit: John Moore / Getty Images Portions of this blog were originally published in July, 2013. What's curious is that it's as relevant today (to both Weiner and our culture), as it was three years ago when it was first written. The salient question is this: What can we learn from Weiner, as leaders and as humans? Once again, politician Anthony Weiner has been caught in flagrante delicto. It’s deja vu, all over again. Just a fe...
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