A True Story Of The Smart Woman Who Ruined Her Stupid Career (and Lived Happily Ever After)

Mar17
This timeless, intimate story delivers a profound lesson... Once upon a time, I was a very successful senior sales executive in the fashion industry. I traveled the world, made a boatload of money and was. ahem, very important.  I dined at appropriately chic restaurants, worked out at ‘The best' club in the city, dressed perpetually as though I was going on a photo shoot, and bossed people around a lot. I was not a very nice per...
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RULE #1 KEEP YOUR KNEES TOGETHER: What Women Who Lead Can Learn About Executive Presence from Kellyanne Conway

Mar03
It was the picture that went round the world in a blink of the shutter…. Kellyanne Conway, senior advisor to The President, kneeling on a couch in the Oval Office. Around her stood dozens of Presidents of the HBCAU (Historically Black Colleges and Universities) who were gathered round The President in what appeared to be a photo opp. From what I can see from the photo, Kellyanne is the lone white woman in the room. (Yes, it is indeed ...
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12 THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR

Feb15
HAVING AN OPINION: It's yours. You earned it. You deserve it. Your opinion is not up for a vote. It is based on your beautiful, flawed and perfectly unique history. Your opinion is not an negotiable fact. Nor is it an alternative fact. It is subjective and it matters not if anyone agrees with you. BEING SELF-FULL: You are lovable and worthy. That warrants no discussion. Taking care of your needs, your wants and your desires is not selfish;...
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THIS IS WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU STEP OVER YOUR INTEGRITY

Feb06
Ellen promised she’d send her signed contract back to me the day she received it. Six days later, after a number of ‘delays’, it showed up in the mail. First, she forgot. Then her printer didn’t work, then she left It home. Finally, she failed to check the box for Saturday delivery so I didn’t receive her packet until Monday night. What should have been a 24 hour turnaround, resulted in a delay of six days. No big deal. Priscilla ...
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THE BEST WAY TO HANDLE ALTERNATE FACTS ON THE JOB

Feb02
“I can’t believe it! He lied to me!” This from Wendy, a long-term (and much respected) coaching client, heatedly calling me in the middle of the day. “Who lied to you?” “Angus. For six-months he’s looked me straight in the eye during our one-on-ones, and in my review, and he blatantly lied to me. I could be sick right now!” Here’s the backstory... Over the course of several months Wendy and I had rigorously positi...
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4 Hard Leadership Lessons Learned From a Fallen Weiner

Sep08
Photo Credit: John Moore / Getty Images Portions of this blog were originally published in July, 2013. What's curious is that it's as relevant today (to both Weiner and our culture), as it was three years ago when it was first written. The salient question is this: What can we learn from Weiner, as leaders and as humans? Once again, politician Anthony Weiner has been caught in flagrante delicto. It’s deja vu, all over again. Just a fe...
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Don’t Call Me MS. BOSSY PANTS!

Jul07
A while ago I sent a business associate an email following up on an introduction she'd made for me. She responded with "I do appreciate your enthusiasm but it can feel a bit overbearing, to be honest." What?! First, I was flabbergasted! Then, I searched the online dictionary for the word 'overbearing'. After that, I was hurt. In case you're curious, the synonyms for overbearing are: bossy overly authoritative domineering au...
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The ANATOMY of FEAR

May12
                    NANCY HAS RECORDED THIS FOR YOU (mp3) Fear, I am not giving in to you today. Today, you don't even exist for me. Now that I think of it, you might as well get lost because I have no use for you ever again. Never did. Didn’t know it. Now I do. For years, I actually believed you when you told me I was unworthy; When you tease...
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10 Characteristics of Confident Women

May05
Michelle walked into the meeting and all heads turned. The group felt her presence before they even saw her. Slight in stature, Michelle’s head was held high, her posture straight and her eye contact direct. She took in the room, smiled at her colleagues and headed for the power seat. Then she called the meeting to order. Michelle is a supremely confident woman. But that was not always the case. Just six months prior, her manager called m...
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