12 THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR

Feb15
HAVING AN OPINION: It's yours. You earned it. You deserve it. Your opinion is not up for a vote. It is based on your beautiful, flawed and perfectly unique history. Your opinion is not an negotiable fact. Nor is it an alternative fact. It is subjective and it matters not if anyone agrees with you. BEING SELF-FULL: You are lovable and worthy. That warrants no discussion. Taking care of your needs, your wants and your desires is not selfish;...
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THIS IS WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU STEP OVER YOUR INTEGRITY

Feb06
Ellen promised she’d send her signed contract back to me the day she received it. Six days later, after a number of ‘delays’, it showed up in the mail. First, she forgot. Then her printer didn’t work, then she left It home. Finally, she failed to check the box for Saturday delivery so I didn’t receive her packet until Monday night. What should have been a 24 hour turnaround, resulted in a delay of six days. No big deal. Priscilla ...
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THE BEST WAY TO HANDLE ALTERNATE FACTS ON THE JOB

Feb02
“I can’t believe it! He lied to me!” This from Wendy, a long-term (and much respected) coaching client, heatedly calling me in the middle of the day. “Who lied to you?” “Angus. For six-months he’s looked me straight in the eye during our one-on-ones, and in my review, and he blatantly lied to me. I could be sick right now!” Here’s the backstory... Over the course of several months Wendy and I had rigorously positi...
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The 6 Things My Most Successful Coaching Clients Do

Jan18
Coaching can be a messy business, if done right. Most people don’t hire a coach because they lack talent or potential. Most people hire a coach because there’s a gap between who they are, at their core, and how they’re performing in their lives. This Potential to Performance Gap ™ often creates cognitive dissonance; a clinical term that means, in essence, that two conflicting beliefs are attempting to harmoniously live in the same...
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AN OPEN LETTER TO HIGH POTENTIAL, UNDERACHIEVING WOMEN

Jan05
Dear High Potential, Underachieving Friend, I’ve been wanting to have this conversation with you for quite some time but, I confess, I’ve been a wimp. I know, I know…. You see me as a powerful woman who never holds back, so I betrayed both of us, didn’t I? Please know that this letter is tinged with the embarrassment that comes with not having had the courage to confront you sooner. But wimp no more! What I’ve been wanti...
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4 Hard Leadership Lessons Learned From a Fallen Weiner

Sep08
Photo Credit: John Moore / Getty Images Portions of this blog were originally published in July, 2013. What's curious is that it's as relevant today (to both Weiner and our culture), as it was three years ago when it was first written. The salient question is this: What can we learn from Weiner, as leaders and as humans? Once again, politician Anthony Weiner has been caught in flagrante delicto. It’s deja vu, all over again. Just a fe...
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THE UNHEARD THIRD™: How to Identify, Grow and Retain Latent Leaders

Aug26
Leaders lead. Followers follow. And then there’s The Unheard Third™: The people in the middle who, for one reason or another, fall through the leadership cracks when they’re passed through or passed over. These latent leaders are the next generation achievers whose potential has yet to, or may never be, turned into performance: Failing to distinguish themselves from the rest of the pack, they just blend into the background. They’re l...
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The Ultimate Guide on How to Advance Women Now!

Aug05
She told me she felt dismissed, irrelevant, invisible. She told me she didn’t feel as though she mattered; she couldn’t recall the last time she’d been validated. She wondered what was wrong with her; what she could have done differently and what she should now do over. “She” is a leader-- a high potential senior manager who has worked for the same tech firm for the past decade. She loves her company, but she doesn’t thi...
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5 Things Smart, High Potential Women Never Do!

Jul28
  It’s one thing to have high potential, and quite another to use it! There are zillions of women with the smarts, the skills and the talent to “turn their potential into performance”™; to create a positive impact that is personally meaningful, doing what matters most to them in their work and in their lives. BUT…. (and it’s a huge one) they don’t advance. They lack the Growth Mindset, the temperament, the confi...
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